June 7, 2011
I get home from school, and my sister also babysitter for my four year old daughter says, "There is a note for you from the school". "Okay, no problem i'll read it in a minute" I say as I'm getting settled in from class and just a long day period. She looks at me with a look like Ok, but you need to read it. Annoyed I pick up the note and begin to read.
Dear Ms. Clomon, Sanya has hitting her friends, and she has not been wearing her listening ears today. Please talk to her so we can continue to have a fun and productive time in class.
First thing that pops up in my mind is that Damn teacher don't know what she's doing with my baby...(being honest) and it may have some truth to it, but the truth of the matter is that my daughther is CHOOSING to HIT and CHOOSING to be disobedient and disrespectful, and that is a big no no in my household. What do I do because this has happened before. Is my baby just BAD?, does she miss her dad? am I doing something wrong? what's up because when I was her age I wan an angel, especially Daycare!! "geesh", but my baby is the total opposite from me I guess.
Well, I wake her up from her sleep (she was half awake because she heard me coming in any way.) I read the note aloud to her and I ask her why are you hitting and being disobedient..shoulder shrug, water in her eyes, and pouty face. I soo wanted to give in and say "okay baby go back to sleep", but NO we need to discuss this ( as i said before this is a reoccuring problem), you do know why, and I need an answer. She doens't know where to start Hello! she is four, okay so I try to think like a four year old. So I ask her questions. Is Sanaya a bad little girl? she says yes, I say no sanaya you are not bad. One problem I have is when people call children bad, and some family members may have called ger bad and she caught on and is therefore acting accordingly. So as best I could I tried to redirect her thinking and let her know, you are not bad you are a good girl and you need to act like it.
Secondly, my sister and I decided to go half on an apartment. Good idea right, yes it is a good idea, but also it's a change for her children as well as my daughter. Sanaya alone with me recieved all of my attention. Now living with an 11yr old and a 2 year old not only does she have to share attention, but she also has to fight for it. So I take all of that into consideration. I try to show her and tell her as much as possible you are my baby, but you have to also be a big girl. This is a struggle for her and I think she acts out in school because of it. Now after we talked and I loved up on her if I pick her up today and we have the same problem then another TOOL may be used to redirect her thinking into making better decisions when I'm not around. So I'll keep you all posted on her bahavior at school and please let's all keep our fingers crossed!!
